Oliver: "Mom, we are not like regular families." Me: "What do you mean? What makes you say that?" Oliver: "Other families, I see that their kids go to 'normal' school and Aiden and I don't." Me: "So you think we are not like regular families because we homeschool you guys?" Oliver: "Well, not just that.... Continue Reading →
Don’t Let Go
Most of 2020, Aiden stayed in his underwear in the house. He would be very quick to get completely and appropriately dressed at the hint of going outside. But as soon as he comes home and barely a few steps from the door, he starts leaving a trail of clothes. Shoes, socks, shirts, shorts/pants. Thank... Continue Reading →
Don’t Minimize Me
Don’t minimize me.Don’t minimize my grief.Don’t minimize my loss.Do not underestimate my pain.Do not belittle my cause.Don’t minimize me.You don’t go through what I do.You don’t cry my tears or live my fears.Unless these feet becomes yours to walk,Don’t minimize my efforts.I do not doubt your pain.I cannot imagine your burden.But my goodness, you have... Continue Reading →
I Thought I Was Decided
I really thought I was decided. And yet, here I am agonizing again. What do I do? Which way do I go? Parenting is truly one of the hardest jobs in the world. Being in charge of another person's life because they are too young or they may not have the ability to do so... Continue Reading →
Say What Mr. Exec?
There was a recent controversy in my hometown (Cebu, Philippines). A mother of an autistic child wrote a review on Trip Advisor for one of Cebu's well-known resorts. In it she wrote how a resort employee asked her to tell her son to be quiet while swimming in the pool. She said her son was... Continue Reading →
Almost Decided
In the last couple of weeks, I have been vacillating on whether or not to push forward with getting Aiden into ABA, Speech, and Occupational therapies. Following his formal diagnosis late October 2020, I had been looking forward to getting him these services. The thought of my child being reintroduced to these interventions after many... Continue Reading →
Aiden’s Song
After Aiden's usual afternoon bike time outside, Hubby came in and excitedly called me. He said that he wasn't sure at first but Aiden did it a second time. He sang a song that went something like, "Walking down the street, down the street..." Hubby was ecstatic! Of course, I wouldn't dare let myself miss... Continue Reading →
Kindness and Kids
This afternoon, our doorbell rang. It was our next door neighbor. They said they came because they had never really introduced themselves to us. They also said that the pizza delivery guy brought them an extra box so they were wondering if we wanted an early dinner. I graciously accepted and thanked them for their... Continue Reading →
Autism Does Not Define Us
I felt so appalled the first time someone suggested that Aiden "maybe" had Autism. He was only 2 years old at that time and he was going for speech therapy because of language delay. I remember being so angry. How could she say such a thing! Hubby was equally angry. How dare her! It couldn't... Continue Reading →
Our New Chapter: Diagnosis
Both of Aiden's past Autism diagnoses came from 2 school districts in 2 different states. There isn't really a shred of doubt in our minds (and hearts) that he truly has ASD. The only question was, where in the spectrum does he fall into? So why haven't we sought the formal diagnosis after all these... Continue Reading →